Written collaboratively by Ella Kolb and Andrea Bjornestad.
When we think about health, we often think of physical well-being; exercise, nutrition, sleep, and regular checkups. While these things are all very important, mental health is also just as important. Unfortunately for many men, talking about mental health can still feel uncomfortable, difficult, or even shameful. For generations, men have been taught to be strong, independent, and resilient. These qualities are very positive but can also create unrealistic expectations. Many men grow up hearing messages like, “tough it out,” “don’t show emotion,” or “handle your problems on your own,” and over time, these beliefs can make it much harder to recognize when support is needed, and even harder to ask for help.
The reality is that mental health challenges do not discriminate. Men are less likely to be diagnosed with a mental health condition compared to women, yet they are much more likely to die by suicide or struggle with a substance use disorder. The suicide rate is nearly four times higher for men than for women, and men account for approximately 75–80% of all suicide deaths in the United States (CDC, 2026). Stress, anxiety, depression, grief, burnout, and loneliness can affect everyone, yet many men suffer in silence in fear of being judged, appearing weak, or burdening others. The stigma around men’s mental health can prevent men from seeking support early on, which allows for their struggles to grow into larger challenges.
Changing the way in which we define strength can challenge the stigma around men’s mental health. True strength is not about pretending everything is okay but having the courage to acknowledge when you are struggling and taking the necessary steps to care for yourself. It takes courage to ask for help, talk about difficult emotions, and accept the help provided. Creating a culture where mental health conversations are normalized for everyone is key to challenging this stigma. Checking in on a friend, asking how someone is really doing, or sharing your own experiences can help break down barriers and remind others that they are not alone.
Mental health support does not have to begin in a therapist’s office. It can start with a conversation, a trusted friend or family member, a faith leader, or a healthcare provider. What is important is taking that first step and recognizing that seeking help is a sign of self-awareness, not weakness.
Reference
Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. (2026). Suicide data and statistics.
